Showing posts with label Friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friendship. Show all posts

Monday, September 17, 2012

MONDAY MOTIVATION/THURSDAY THOUGHTS - Only One Purpose

I haven't shared Kathy's Thursday Thoughts for a few weeks, so I thought I'd post one here today.  I thank her SO much for these words.  There are days when I just need to hear that what we are doing is helping and making a difference - exactly what we set out to do. Kathy's next post will be on Thursday...

I love my job at the bank because I meet such fascinating people and they teach me so much. Randy is one of those people. He is probably in his mid forties. He is severely handicapped and mentally challenged. He is deaf and therefore has difficulty speaking, but he holds down a job and brings his deposits into the bank on a regular basis. Karen is a woman who has taken Randy under her wing. She told me one day, “I loved him the minute I met him.”  She has learned sign language and she (along with her husband) brings him in to help him with his finances. I love to see them when they come in. There is no fanfare and no public recognition…just love and charity being displayed in its purest form.

Seeing them makes me think of the many people who have touched my life. Most are not public figures and they probably don’t have huge bank accounts or drive the biggest and best cars. But their hearts are full of genuine concern and love. Among these are the women in our organization Lifting Hearts. They are organized for only one purpose…to lend support and love to those who are suffering from the rigors of Breast Cancer. They are among the most  noble women I know.

I was drawn to a song written by Alan Jackson about his father. The entire song was worth listening to, but the chorus catches the spirit I am trying to create in this week’s blog. It goes like this:

And he Bowed his head to Jesus
And he stood for Uncle Sam
And he only loved one woman
Was always proud of what he had
He said his finest contribution
Was the ones he left behind
Raised on the ways and gentle kindness
Of a small town southern man

Although I was not raised in the south, the chorus of this song resonated with me deeply even the first time I heard it, because I know so many unsung heroes like the one Jackson sang about. While our society seems to be fascinated with the lives of the rich and famous, I feel that perhaps equal or even more attention should be given to those who are noble and unknown, for they are the backbone of this nation. We also need to recognize that all of us have a circle of influence that is greater than we realize, and if we each invest ourselves in doing all we can to lighten the load for the people in our circle, the world becomes a more pleasant place for all of us. Although most of our lives do not play out on a public stage, we can add a great measure of joy to those we serve, just like Karen does for Randy, and the women of Lifting Hearts do for those who are progressing through their Breast Cancer journeys. There are endless opportunities to do this and I for one, plan to be more aware and a little less self absorbed so that I can bring at least a few more smiles to those within my circle.

Kathy Christensen

Thursday, October 6, 2011

THURSDAY THOUGHTS - Be That Kind Of Friend

Guest post...

What would life be like without the friends we meet along our life's path? Having been blessed with many close friends during my lifetime, I truly can not imagine my life without them. Last week I received a call from a dear friend I had over twenty six years ago. We simply lost track of each other. I wondered about her and how she was doing many times, but had no idea how to reach her. Thank heavens she took the time and effort to track me down and surprised me with a phone call this week. The joy it brought me was almost beyond words to describe. I then thought of the many friends who have added so much sweetness, love and support to my life and my heart was filled with gratitude. Dinah Maria Mulock penned a quote that reads like this:

"Oh, the comfort , the inexpressible comfort, of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts, nor measure words--but pouring them all right out--just as they are--chaff and grain together--certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them--keep what is worth keeping--and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away."

Thank heavens for such friends. They make the rough patches in our lives better and the good times that much sweeter. I think this is the principle which drives Lifting Hearts to reach out to so many of us. They have made many of us feel more loved, safer, and simply grateful for their love, support and encouragement.

Henry B. Eyring once said that if we treat everyone we meet as if they were experiencing a period of crisis in their lives, we would be right more that half of the time. That means there are opportunities all around for us to BE that kind of a friend for someone else. Heaven help us all to strive to be more aware of others who may need love, support, or even just a smile from us. I will be forever grateful that my old friend took the time to find me. We vowed to NEVER lose track again, and I promised myself to be more aware of opportunities to share love and support with others as I continue my life's journey.

Kathy Christensen
Survivor
Member of Lifting Hearts

Monday, August 22, 2011

MONDAY MOTIVATION - Friends Along the Way

Guest Blog Post: I'm excited to share this guest post, written by my friend, and fellow Lifting Hearts Board member, Colette Harris. Enjoy...

"During my journey with breast cancer I have made many friends along the way. Little did I realize that a park near my home would become one of them. I remember the first couple of days after my diagnosis. I was stunned. I kept asking myself, “How could this happen to me? Where do I go from here?” With a heavy heart, I decided to take my troubles to the park. Tears flowed down my face and splashed to the ground. The sun-warmed walking path graciously absorbed them and accepted them as her own. As time passed, one lap around the park became two, then three. A gentle breeze eventually dried all of my tears and the song of a bird lifted my heart. My fear was replaced with peace, and somehow I knew that I would be okay.

I didn’t visit my park for many months after my bilateral mastectomy and treatments. My last four chemo treatments were rough. Neuropathy set in and walking was a struggle. My feet were numb and my legs felt limp. I could only walk a few steps without feeling like I would fall. The little fish named Dory in the movie Finding Nemo became my hero. Her motto was “Just keep swimming; just keep swimming.” I decided that my new motto would be “Just keep moving; just keep moving.” I was determined to do whatever it took to get my legs back under me. Family members helped steady me as I attempted to walk around the block. Even with their assistance, I could only walk to the end of the street before my legs gave out. I told them I was thinking of getting a cane. That way I could practice walking on my own without having to rely on them. My daughter had a brilliant idea. She mentioned that she wanted to get into better shape after having her first baby. She suggested that I push her baby in its stroller at the park while she ran. That way she would have someone to watch her baby and I would have something to lean on while I walked. It was a win – win situation for both of us.

I was excited to once again visit my old friend, Bonneville Park. Feeling the sun on my face, hearing the laughter of children playing while pushing my beautiful granddaughter in her stroller was very therapeutic. Each week was a new victory. I cheered when I could push the stroller one lap around the park without my legs giving out. In time, it was two laps, then three. My legs were getting stronger and I could walk further without feeling like I would fall.

After several weeks of pushing my granddaughter in her stroller, I tried to walk one lap around the park without any assistance. This time, it was tears of joy that streamed from my face and splashed to the ground. Once again, the sun-warmed walking path lovingly absorbed them and shared my private victory with me.

It has now been 2 ½ years since I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I still have neuropathy, but my legs are much stronger, thanks to Bonneville Park. Last week I cheered when I walked two miles around the park without my legs giving out. Hooray! I am trying to walk six days a week. By the end of September, I hope to be able to walk three miles so I can finally walk in a 5K in October for breast cancer awareness month. There is a Making Strides Against Breast Cancer Walk October, 8th. I hope to participate. (It would be awesome if our support group could form a team and walk with me!) Thank you Bonneville Park, you have been a true friend on my road to recovery.

Post Script: August 11, 2011 was a very special day for me. That was the day that so many of you awesome survivors and your families came to my park, Bonneville Park, for our Lifting Hearts picnic. Who would have guessed that a little over a year ago we were complete strangers and now you have become such dear friends. Thank you for sharing your journey with me. It has been so much fun interacting with you at our support group meetings every month. You are like sisters to me and I love each of you. Now as I walk around the park, my mind is flooded with many wonderful memories of our evening together. Thank you for being a part of my life. Thank you for helping me feel whole.

-Colette Harris
Survivor
Member of Lifting Hearts
Director of Programming (on the Board of Lifting Hearts)
Guest Blogger

Monday, December 13, 2010

MONDAY MEMOIRS - Friendship on the road...

We had such a great time last Thursday night with all you wonderful survivors. I've been thinking since then about friendship, and what it means to have friends that have walked the exact road you have. It's one of the most important things I've found - that having someone to talk to and to help you, someone who knows exactly what you needs, is such an important part of the cancer journey.

"For a shield from the storm, for a friend, for a love to keep me safe and warm...I turn to you. For the strength to be strong, for the will to carry on...for everything you do, for everything thats true, I turn to you."
-Christina Aguilera

"You were the one who made things different, you were the one who took me in. You were the one thing I could count on, above all, you were my friend."
- Tom Petty

"Once there was a darkness, a deep and endless night, you gave me everything you had and oh, you gave me light"
-Sarah Mclaughlan


What do you think about friendship? Is it important? Why? Grab your cancer journal and write a few words.

Have a great day!

-Kara

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